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Love & Life

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My wife and I have been going through one of those times where you annoy each other more times than usual. It had got so bad to the point where every time we tried to have a conversation, it always ended up with us getting angry at each other – most times over petty things.

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My wife and I have been going through one of those times where you annoy each other more times than usual. It had got so bad to the point where every time we tried to have a conversation, it always ended up with us getting angry at each other – most times over petty things.

A while ago, she proposed that we should talk to someone, and me with my huge ego from Bushenyi that can fill a pioneer bus alone, I obviously refused. She didn’t give up on the idea – she is an extremely stubborn woman. She went ahead and scheduled a coffee with Bishop Zac. I have to say, I respect that Bishop and there is no way I was going to stand him up. So, I allowed to meet him and I have to say it was easier than I thought and obviously much more rewarding than I expected.

We had a great one hour chat with the Bishop, who listened more than he contributed. Here we were, talking to each other in a way that we had not done in a while. I was listening and she was listening. Our issues were pretty much resolved by ourselves! All the Bishop had to do was sit there, listen and allow us to express ourselves.

Anyways, this experience got me thinking about love and life. It got me reviewing the relationships and the people around me. It is very interesting to note that Romantic love can actually be more destructive than we think. You have seen all these love crimes that happen every other day? How about the greatest love story of all time; Romeo and Juliet. It was actually a more chaotic story that we realize. It was filled with death, feuds, and suicide!

Studies show that love is like a drug – cocaine to be precious! Love gives us a stimulating effect on the brain, just like cocaine does. When in love, we experience intense highs when things are good and then crash down hard when things go bad. That is why there are people who get heartbroken all the time but just keep on getting from one relationship and straight into another – they never stop. These are pretty much addicted to love high. They tend to use love as an escape from their problems or as a distraction without even knowing it.

It is very interesting to note that back in the day, our forefathers knew about these effects of love and that’s why marriages were not based on love but rather on respective skills sets of the partners. How well do they complement each other? How well will they be able to support each other to do great things? These days, however, most marriages are based on love and when the high is over, most of us do not know how to deal. Hence, more divorces than back in the day.

I know people who got married or are married for love are probably rolling their eyes, and a few others thinking… Shoot! We are doomed! No, we are not! There is a backdoor to making things work. Instead of focusing on your feelings – that is the love high, focus on supporting your partner. In simple terms, be a friend. When the high goes down – which it always does, you shall still have the friendship bond to jump things up and get the high effects back on.

To happier relationships.

PS. There is no shame in talking to someone about your issues. Do not bottle things up. They will blow up and it will be too late to get help.

PPS. They say to conquer your flaws, you must first accept them.

PPPS. Yes, he asked the question.. How is your sex life?!
God! That question!!! It never stops being awkward answering that question.

What are your thoughts?!

thoughts so far!

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