Turns out this is a very sensitive topic for many people – so I have discovered!
@cmugume wat he thinks! he is 3 years old!! I am not French-Ing him- how i choose to show him affectn isn’t some’n u shd concern urself with
— TRICIA** (@triciatwasiima) March 21, 2015
Lets forget for a minute what I think is right or wrong.
Lately I have seen a number of pictures of young ladies (notice I didn’t say mothers) lip kissing little ones that they are related to – Kid brother or sister, nephew or niece. This got me wondering why they were doing it and if there was any effects from it.
Don’t get me wrong, I have completely nothing against people showing affection to their loved ones in whatever way works for them. My worry is what effects these ways of showing affection (that we think are okay to us) have on our societies.
Strangely this got me thinking about the countless times I have seen bizarre stories in the papers with titles like “I am in love with my sister” “I have thought about sleeping with Aunt” “I am having sexual relationships with my father” – In such cases I (just like many others) always blame the older person for being an A-hole.
Think about this for a second, could it be that this originated from the affection that this individual was showing the other party when he/she was a toddler?
In the first moments, months and years of life, every touch, movement and emotion in a young child’s life translates into an explosion of electrical and chemical activity in the brain, as billions of cells are organizing themselves into networks requiring trillions of synapses between them. These early childhood years are when experiences and interactions with parents, family members and other adults influence the way a child’s brain develops.. – UNICEF
To the adult, it is innocent, harmless display of affection. To the little kid… actually, you can’t be so sure what it is! It could be innocent because he/she has no sexual awareness yet, but then in some kids, they get sexually aware as early as 4,5 or 6 years old.
Not forgetting the TV (Read Disney – Isn’t that what most kids watch these days?) effect. I mean, how do you know that every time you lip kiss that little soul, this is not what is going through her/his little head?!
There is a whole lot of health issues that come with lip kissing kids, from the infections that could come from the lipstick the adult kisser is wearing, or worse mononucleosis.
I think sometimes we tend to forget about the effects of the actions that we do and be selfish (read human) about our actions. If it is OK to me, it sure hell is OK to them, I mean they are kids, what do they know!
If it is OK to you to lip kiss your little one, I am not judging you – I am simply saying “DO NOT be freaked by the future”.
Do not lie to yourself that nothing went wrong with you or your friend that was lip kissed all the time while a toddler, humans are different.
PS. Do not lip kiss my kid(s) – Peck them, kiss them on the forehead, chest bump them, fist bump them, hug the air out of their lungs, rub their head, pull their cheeks, tickle the life out of them – Just do not put your (lovely) lips on theirs. 🙂
PSS. Tricia, sorry I had to use your tweet.
Such an absurd topic, that’s obscene….abuse of child rights, its always best people find their match and kiss that one, kiss someone Ur age or a wall if need be, not the child.i would actually call it a consolation move considering the person cant find peeps of their age.tsk.
Lip kissing, what can i say? Am a mother so i can only speak from my perspective, most of the times we get lost in the excitement of what we have now (the child) and for get about the future, because truth be told your kid’s future depends greatly on how you groom them now, for them to be better people tomorrow
It is a young mind after all, even when you don’t lip kiss them they are still going to learn about all these in five years like you said “their minds grow up in about 4-5 years” but where is your role as a parent?
Am not say it is not a factor, but let’s not blame the issue of our kids getting “sexually spoilt” in future to lip kissing and generally focus on being good parents and directing the in the right paths.
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